Corona Virus related loneliness

Taking care of your mental health in Corona Virus related loneliness   Working with clients online over the past few weeks, since the Corona Virus hit the UK, there’s one thing I’ve noticed above all.  In the words of one client: ”Talking gave me permission to understand what I’m feeling” As one writer put it, […]

Feeling unloved

Do you unconsciously hope for a sign of love on Valentine's Day? Digital hearts or a handwritten red envelope on the door mat? Mystery flowers? This might be a hangover from teenage years when we actually received personal letters, but it may also be a natural response to feeling lonely, sad about not having a [...]

Is overeating just a habit?

Most people who come to see me, who are frustrated with the compulsion to overeat, ask “Isn't it just a habit?” As if that's an end to the subject. It is a habit. Overeating is usually something that was learned very early on, and has been practiced (perhaps interspersed with periods of dieting) for most [...]

Binge Eating and Mindfulness

Mindfulness is becoming a buzzword in our culture. Today I'm going to write about how mindfulness can be used to manage binge eating, and as a preparation for helping to learn how to manage feelings a different way.   Slow down and notice Mindfulness, in regard to binge eating, is the practice of eating with [...]

Surviving family dynamics at Christmas, being single or alone at Christmas, & Christmas overeating

Take extra care of yourself at Christmas Some of my client work involves talking about Christmas all year round. Most of us are going back to our families; to the places where we learned how to relate. Some of us don't have family or partners at all, and will be spending Christmas alone. On the [...]

What it takes to understand, manage and change comfort and binge eating

Keep a higher purpose in the forefront of your mind You've got to have a really good, personally meaningful reason, to give up what comforts you. For me it's connecting to what I really want in life. Whether this be empowering people through really talking about things that don't get talked about; feeling strong, fit [...]

Self soothing strategies for binge eaters, and for people who feel rejected

13 Strategies for self soothing These are particularly for you if you experience urges to binge eat, or to obsess over romantic partners   When you feel an urge coming on, to binge eat or to text that guy or girl you've been obsessing over, stop for a second. Just stop. Just for a second. [...]

How to stop feeling so alone

Loneliness is a big problem According to Douglas Nemecek, MD, chief medical officer for behavioural health, Cigna, ''Loneliness has the same impact on mortality as smoking 15 cigarettes a day, making it even more dangerous   than obesity.'' In this article, I will show you how to address feeling so alone.   Everyone feels lonely Through [...]

Do you love too much?

 Feeling the sting of loneliness? Looking out of my Bristol window today, I can see the grey clouds. As we go into the dark and cold of Winter,  it strikes me that today might be a good day to focus on inner warmth. Maybe this is a good day to reflect on the love that [...]

Do you give yourself a hard time?

Comfort eating and self criticism Watch my video to see the link between self criticism and binge eating, and how you can start to overcome it:     In my work with binge eating, what I see most, is people who are really hard on themselves. This is one of the main reasons that people [...]