Counselling and psychotherapy for prevalent areas of concern
Many people experience anxiety on a daily basis. Left unattended it can lead to fatigue, depression or health problems. Counselling for anxiety is about exploring what lies beneath the anxiety, and learning techniques to cope with this experience. My training in body centred psychotherapy is particularly useful here, for learning self soothing and ways to manage and understand anxiety.
What ‘depression’ means to me is literally a depression of one’s feelings. This may mean that you have experienced many different overwhelming emotions that have been squashed, and so you have given up. Or it may mean feeling very down. Either way, therapy would involve exploring and understanding the depression and its causes. Here we work to discover what it is you really want and what is blocking you from having this, with a view to change and finding a way to feel happier.
This is probably the most common reason why people come to see me. Lack of self confidence is something that a lot of people will experience regularly.
Self esteem is all about how much we actually like ourselves. Low self confidence manifests in self doubt, criticism, loneliness, shame and suppressed feelings. The template for this is often laid out by the way our parents related (which would also have been learnt from their primary care givers). So psychotherapy is about understanding this effect on you, and learning a new way of thinking about yourself, to the point of being able to embrace your life and succeed in the things that you want.
It is important that you know that this is not about blaming your parents, but more about you, which may be the very thing that you need in order to move on (paying attention to, valuing and caring for you. I have a lot of empathy for how uncomfortable this may be for you).
I also work a lot with people who are not currently in relationship, and who feel hopeless about finding a mate. Loneliness is known to be one of the biggest problems in our society (whether in relationship or not). A huge number of people in are single and wish that they weren’t. Lots of people feel they only meet the ‘wrong’ type of potential partner, and feel stuck and hopeless about this ever changing. Many people feel used, rejected, and hurt. Therapy is about understanding this pattern, caring for you, and learning a new way of approaching relationship realistically, and with exactly what you really want in mind. Self confidence will be explored here.
Wanting to improve a primary relationship is also a popular reason people come to see me. Often clients come to therapy when they are at crisis point in their current relationship. Betrayal, affairs and separation are common issues for us to talk about. Relationship building is fundamental to our lives yet it is something we are not taught well about. Understanding the patterns, roles and dynamics that exist between you and your partner can help. These are often repeated for generations and can be changed. Mindfulness and presence are the key to a successful relationship and sex life. Backed up emotions that have been squashed or unexpressed can lead to difficulties in being mindful, self aware, present or able to give and receive love. In therapy all of this will be navigated to help you feel more empowered, open and ready for intimacy, leading to a more satisfying, authentic connection, and life.
Do you dread Christmas or occasions with your family or inlaws?
You are not alone.
Christmas is often an extremely stressful time for people who feel restricted in their families. Many clients come to therapy to talk about this. Often we work on understanding family relationships, having the confidence to set boundaries for yourself, and ultimately finding a way to be happier within yourself, amongst your family, and in any social setting or gathering of people.
I am a certified practitioner of the ‘Understanding Your Eating’ Programme developed by Julia Buckroyd: www.understandingyoureating.co.uk
This is a programme developed specifically for people who are troubled by comfort eating, binge eating or over eating. The programme may be taken individually, or in groups (This is highly recommended for the extra support and bonding with your peers)
“I had the feeling that therapy was good for my writing very early on.” – Filmmaker Agnes Jaoui
Therapy for ‘stuckness’ begins with self awareness. This can help any of us to be more authentic, aware or alive. It can also help us to understand other people. All of this can be valuable for anyone, and particularly for enhancing creative expression and life potential.
“Acting is telling a story, and you’re part of telling that story… in some ways therapy helps more than acting class. You realize why you operate in certain ways.” – Heather Graham, ‘Psych Central.’
Therapy helps you to be clear about what it is that’s holding you back from your desire, instincts and inspiration, and what you might need to explore in yourself, in order to move on. Fear and self sabotage may be what is keeping you stuck. We will gently face this together.